Julie DeNeen » Purveyor of Fine Opinions

Yesterday I told you Alex and I went to the doctors. The OBGYN is the same practice that delivered (and in my opinion) mishandled Eden’s heart defect. They aren’t my favorite practice. But in the interest of laziness and not wanting to fill out a million forms, I just decided to go with them again […]

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  • Denise - Oh for goodness sake woman, go find another practice. The paper work is not that bad. You’re going to have to see the doc/middle mother at least what…a dozen more times? 15 more times? Find someone who’s happy to deal with babies. Surely someone in the blogosphere is in your hometown and knows a GREAT middle mother. (I love that term.)ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - You have enough to deal with. Get thee to a new practice! How dare she judge you.ReplyCancel

  • dave - A Dr patient relationship is very important. Especially this type of Dr. I would change practices as soon as possible, and this is from someone that hates changing doctors! You are paying them for a specific service. If they do not meet your satisfaction you take your business elsewhere.ReplyCancel

  • James Timothy Peters - I do believe it’s time to move on.ReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - Find a new doctor toot sweet. And congratulations!ReplyCancel

  • Emily - PLEEEEEASE find a new practice!! And, based on the other comments, it’s no surprise everyone else agrees!ReplyCancel

  • Denise Scott Geelhart - New practice! Go where you feel confident and comfortable! You don’t need the extra stress.ReplyCancel

  • Jenny Kanevsky - Shit, I’ll deliver your baby and do a better job. NEW PRACTICE! Once you go through the initial pain in the ass of changing it’ll be so much better for both of you. It’s Alex’s experience too. Yuck.ReplyCancel

  • Alexis Gambardella - New practice! I could never have gone through my pregnancy or delivery without my supportive practice. Women’s Health Associates…amazing midwife group! Happy to back up recommendation if you need or want! (I was in a similar situation to you with knowing my hubby for a very short time and they were amazing!) ReplyCancel

  • Pete Vanlaw - She’s the “Mid-wife from Hell”. Time to move on. If you weren’t happy with her seven years ago, it ain’t gonna’ get any better now. I just went through a similar issue with a urologist, who I’d been gong to for TEN years…and truly hated the guy for reasons too lengthy to enumerate here. I finally asked myself, “Why do I continue to put up with his Bullsh*t?” So, get to the new practice 20 min. early, bite the bullet and do the paper work. You only have to do it once.ReplyCancel

  • Jessica Smock - I guess I’ll chime in here, as I’m currently 38.5 weeks pregnant and not terribly happy with my ob/gyn practice. I’m also the queen of laziness in terms of being pro-active about this stuff. When I got pregnant, I just picked the practice where I knew that a family friend practiced. Right away I wasn’t sure that they were a good fit, philosophically. But I was lazy and I figured it would be fine. Now it’s too late and I desperately wish that I’d spent the time and energy researching my choices better. (In my case, practices — like a midwife practice — that are more comfortable with VBACs and “older mom” deliveries.) Really, ask around, visit places. Or maybe wait until you’re out of the yucky morning sickness phase.ReplyCancel

  • Jacki Fitzpatrick - Find a new place stat. You need to be comfortable.ReplyCancel

  • Brandi Kelly - Get rid of her!!! This a beautiful experience for you two..make it exceptional on all ends!ReplyCancel

  • Sonya Prince - New practice! Or ask for a different middle mother. I switched practices years ago and had all my records tranfered, filled out one form, and gave them my insurance card. Good luck!ReplyCancel

  • Angela Haworth - Find a new practice!! Paperwork takes 15 minutes and have your old office transfer your entire medical file to the new. So. No excuse for not going new. Besides, 9 months of Nurse Ratchet is NOT going to help with a happy and smooth pregnancy. ReplyCancel

  • Angela Haworth - BTW, congratulations!! ReplyCancel

  • Tana Bevan - For me, I went through almost an entire OB/GYN department before I found one who suited me. While he wasn’t there for the delivery, he did see me through a very difficult pregnancy and for that I am grateful. One’s pregnancy is NOT the time to be making due. That’s my opinion.ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Roberts - I know the last thing you probably want it another shake-up in your life, but it’s time to fire her ass and go somewhere new.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Run Julie! Make this a new, welcome experience for all of you. It’s worth the time on the paperwork.ReplyCancel

  • Welcome to the Bundle - Take your precious kidney bean run! It doesn’t sound like she’s the kind of person to whom you can turn if you have questions or fears, and no pregnant woman should feel intimidated or nervous about talking to her midwife. The extra paperwork will be worth your peace of mind.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Damn it mom’s been playing with the speculum again!ReplyCancel

  • Nana Kwamena Abaka Blankson - We highly recommend the kind and caring Certified Nurse Midwives at Women’s Health Associates in North Branford. When things got a little scary during Mary’s last delivery, the midwives stood up to the docs and made sure no unnecessary or over-the-top invasive procedures were forced on her. Don’t settle for less when it comes to your family/body!
    And (for what it’s worth) they made me feel welcome and integral to everything that went on during the examinations and the delivery.ReplyCancel

  • Brittany Flores - Runnnnnn, Dont walk, to a new office! This should be an amazing thing and a midwife or dr like that can ruin the whole thing! P.s. do you want to deal with her when you are in labor? I wouldn’t that for sure.ReplyCancel

There comes a point in everyone’s life when you realize just how little control you have over… anything. That’s not to absolve us of responsibility, our choices, and our decisions — but when I look over my life, I see so many examples of things happening when I least expect them to. Mom says I […]

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  • Scott - Congratulations!ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - I have to comment on this because I agree completely with you. I don’t get why it’s seems okay for the father to move out and move on with his life, seeing his children on weekend, etc and not the mom. To me, it boils down to what is best for the kids. So, congratulations. I, for one, am very happy for you.ReplyCancel

    • Julie DeNeen - Thank you. I don’t understand this either – but I feel it quite strongly as I try to walk out my life right now.ReplyCancel

  • Lance - Congratulations and best wishes

    Keep taking care of yourself, that will make you a good momReplyCancel

  • Natalie - Congrats Julie and Alex!! Best wishes!!ReplyCancel

  • Disgusted - Wow. What an incredible story. Congratulations!

    I’m amazed at your authenticity and willingness to share your story – the good and the bad – with the world. You are honest and forthright, not just with your strengths, but your weaknesses as well.

    I wish you all the best.ReplyCancel

    • A - How kind of you to share such heartfelt sentiment.ReplyCancel

  • Aussa Lorens - Congrats! If it’s a girl, you can name it Aussa. If it’s a boy you can name it Lawrence. Perfect.ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - You’ve got a lot of love and joy to give Julie. Congratulations. You can do it!ReplyCancel

  • Kim Bongiorno - Congratulation, Julie!ReplyCancel

  • Alyson Shitastrophy Herzig - Congrats!! Exciting stuff:) ReplyCancel

  • Erin Dwyer Dymowski - Congratulations, Julie!

  • Kate Hall - I’m really excited for your little bambino, Julie. I’m thrilled that Alex is 1000% behind being a parent. Life isn’t easy and I know you’re feeling that right now, but there’s also beauty amidst the difficulties. Praying you’ll find comfort through the anticipated judgment and other crap you’re sure to endure. Love you, lady! ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Roberts - That’s absolutely amazing! I completely understand and relate to the feelings of inadequacy as a mother, some of it justified, most of it not. Think of it this way: This baby is another opportunity for you to start your mothering gig all over from the beginning, to see it fresh from a new pairs of eyes that have never witnessed the crazy, beautiful thing that is parenting. ReplyCancel

  • Mary Anne Payne - How exciting!!!ReplyCancel

  • Jessica Watson - Congratulations!ReplyCancel

  • Sarah Honey - Congrats Julie! So excited for you both!

  • Pattie Thomas - So about BlogU15…
    Congratulations JulieReplyCancel

  • Denise Benner Bertacchi - Congratulations! There’s a 8.5 year gap between my boys, so I understand. But it’s like ridin’ a bike. You’ll handle this. ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Gale Williams - What wonderful news!ReplyCancel

  • Laurel Rogers - This is John Lennon’s quote from many years ago. Not to take anything away from your content, Julie, just thought you should know! :)ReplyCancel

  • Dana Montenegro Hemelt - What exciting news, Julie! So you’re a little bit scared, but you’re happy. You got this.ReplyCancel

  • Jill Cowen Cahr - Your post is moving, inspirational and beautiful. Congratulations to you and Alex!!ReplyCancel

  • Snarkfest - Wow, talk about crazy!!! Congratulations to you and to Alex. You’re going to be fantastic parents to this little one.ReplyCancel

  • Glenda Clemens - Be true to yourself and live from that truth. . . everything will be as it should be. Congratualtions and blessings and love to you all.ReplyCancel

  • Michele Webb - You’re no stranger to criticism. Keep your head up, and quit beating yourself up. You and Andrew are really the only ones that know what’s best for your family, and if it’s working out, then it’s exactly what you need to be doing! Congrats on the baby!ReplyCancel

  • Richard Rumple - You’ve gone with your instincts so far, so don’t stop now. Your life is whizzing by at mach 6 speed. Catch your breath, get your bearings, and I wish you the best!ReplyCancel

  • Sally N Reggie Jardon - Julie it is obvious that this child is meant to be born. Take a deep breath, life is short, enjoyReplyCancel

  • Paul - Congratulations Julie! You are the best Mom and will continue to be.ReplyCancel

  • Natalie - I am happy for you. There is so much going on–changes can be overwhelming–but you seem to be taking it in stride. So glad you have someone on your side to be there for you and the baby. Congratulations!ReplyCancel

  • Jenny Kanevsky - I love this. “Middle mother” is adorable. Congratulations. And, on the other issue, the mommy guilt regarding your older children, it’s societal. You’re right, if you were the dad, no one would bat an eyelash, even you. So, know that (which you already do, obviously) you are the best mother for YOUR children and you mother them the way you need to. And that is what mothering is all about. No one can tell you otherwise because you are the mom. And you know best. And, now, you get to be one again! Wahoo. I hope you stop feeling pukey soon, but it sounds like you are in good hands. Many many happy things to you!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Congratulations and for God’s sake quit overthinking it! You ARE a terrific mother, whether your in the house with them or a 1,000 miles away. Nobody can take that away from you. You were meant to get pregnant for a reason so sit back and enjoy it for all it’s worth. Take every second slowly, take it all in (even the throwing up). Last week I told you about moving in with hubby the night after we met. Well we also got pregnant a month after we moved in together and that child is the love of my life (I love my son, don’t get me wrong) but my daughter who looks like me and acts like him has made my whole world complete. I cried when I found out and I wanted to punch him in the throat for smiling ear to ear, but I guess he knew quicker than I did that she would change our lives in the best way. Now that little baby girl is laying in a hospital bed trying to keep her little kidney beans in for a few more weeks even though they are quite eager to get here. Everytime I look at her I see the love of her father and I. She is the product of that love, physical proof that it existed and still does and for that I love her with everything I have. I hope the ball busters have been giving you a break if not tell them to fuck off and enjoy yourself with your new love and your new life and more than anything I am so happy for you!ReplyCancel

  • Tammy - Congratulations Julie! Like you said, the one thing we really can do is expect things to not turn out as planned.ReplyCancel

  • Kirsten - Congratulations to you both!ReplyCancel

  • jhanis - Congrats Julie!ReplyCancel

  • Carin Kilby Clark - Congratulations! So exciting…<3ReplyCancel

  • Sarah Rudell Beach - So thrilled for you Julie! Congrats! (And you’re a great mom… You can hear it in your words) <3ReplyCancel

  • Carpool Goddess - Congratulations, Julie! Wishing you and your family love, health, and happiness.ReplyCancel

  • Anita Davis Sullivan - The best things are rarely easy or perfect. Congratulations on more to come of the best stuff ever- love.ReplyCancel

I’m not ready to spill my big news yet. I know I left a teaser at the end of last post, but bear with me…there’s enough going on in my life for 1000 blog posts. I will get it out of my fingers sooner or later, but it’s too big to just throw out there […]

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  • Sandra Sallin - OK, the absolute worst thing about this whole relationship is drinking coke from a measuring cup.ReplyCancel

  • Emily - I love your current life list and I’m happy mainly about two things: 1) That everyone (you, Andrew, the kids, Alex, your parents) seems to be managing this “weird” transition in a healthy, mature way. Awesome. And 2). Rachel Ray?!!!?? That’s soooo cool – I can’t wait to see that clip!!ReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - happy to read that things are settling down…xoxoReplyCancel

  • Alexis Gambardella - I love this! Met my hubby on Match…moved in 2 months later…married 9 months after that! It’s amazing how these things work out! ReplyCancel

  • Glenda Clemens - Awesome! I love that your heart is alive and loving life in spite of no 401K.ReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - You’ve been a very busy girl! As always, your honesty is refreshing. I prefer my people served up with a healthy slice of realism, and you always deliver in spades. <3ReplyCancel

  • Kristi Campbell - I moved in with my husband after knowing him for three months. And truly, Julie (a rhyme!), I believe with all of me that you all are handling this with the biggest grace, courage, thoughtfulness and love. And that’s really all that matters, ever. xoReplyCancel

  • Chris Carter - WOW!!!! Oh Julie! Change change change… and you seem to still be swimming in these waves quite beautifully my friend. I love that you are happy. Albeit tired, but happy. And your kids? I see joy. And that is HUGE!!

    Sometimes… I really love how life goes. :)ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Roberts - “Too soon” is a relative term. I met my current husband about 6 weeks after my divorce from my first husband was finalized. We got engaged 6 weeks later, married 6 months after that and were pregnant 5 months after that. Fourteen years later and we’re going strong. ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Jeez Julie- your kids look extremly traumatized and I can’t believe you moved him in so soon.

    Just kidding. Well done – sounds like they are adjusting well and thanks (in no part) to the fact that both you and Andrew are mature, sensible people. (Apparently that only works if you’re both sensible…)

    Oh…and thanks for making the rest of us divorced people look bad… ;-)ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I love that you are so obviously happy, I figured it out when I saw the picture of the dinner. Let me tell you about soon. By now you know I have been very VERY happily married for 23 years. Hubby and I went to the same high school but we didn’t run in the same circles so we had only seen each other in hallways. nbd. On a Friday night I went out with my girlfriends for a birthday. My divorce wasn’t even final yet. I met hubby. We fell hard. We moved in with each other the next day and have never spent a night apart in all of these years. As in never not once! (we got married as soon as the divorce was final). It’s all relative when it happens when you meet that person and I believe we may love other people but there is only one true love but when it’s true love you know immediately. People that take forever are talking themselves into it. Who wants that! Have fun!ReplyCancel

When life throws you lemons… Cut ‘em up and use them with Tequila. That’s my motto anyway. I’ve spent the last three weeks in WordPress insanity. Back in September I started a trial to see if I had what it takes to work for them. And… It appears I don’t. Despite the great user feedback […]

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  • Rena McDaniel - While I am extremely happy that you are back I cannot believe the morons at Worpress! Wow! They have no idea what kind of computer genius they have lost! I went back and read the other post which I had missed so now I know how you finally met Alex but I’m probably the only person in the world who doesn’t know what Tinder even is. I’m glad that things are sort of working out least in the personal department and maybe one door closes another will open. If you get desperate I will hack my own site and have to hire to you fix it again! Speaking about that I did one of those anonymous computer checkups (a friend got a free one and gave it to me) so they went to my site and checked it out and I got a very good, very calming experience and they loved the purple. I swear the girl sounded like you haha! I was super excited about that though. My exhusband and now husband (damn that sounded weird didn’t it) were friends all of our married life it wasn’t a big deal to come home from work and they be at the kitchen table talking. I think that is what makes or breaks it with the kids, once they see how Andrew handled it they took their lead from him. Kudos to all of you for doing such a great job with them, sounds like it is going to work out great. I am sure the haters will be crying about that! Screw em” and save me some tequila!ReplyCancel

  • Alexa - I am so out of the loop! I knew you were MIA, but I didn’t know why. Glad you are back. Sorry the job didn’t work out. :-(ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Lowell - Here’s to new starts and though I’m sorry WP didn’t work out the way you expected, it worked out the way it was supposed to (at least that’s what I always tell myself).
    Best of luck in the new place, it looks great!ReplyCancel

  • Emily - That’s sucky about WordPress, but you are like a cat Julie and you always land on your feet (sorry to be so cliche – wordpress would probably not like that either). But seriously, I’m a big believer in fate and for whatever reason, it wasn’t meant to be. I’m glad you’re back in blogging land for now and I may even have another website design referral for you…ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - We’ve got you back. Yippee! WordPress must be some kind of idiots. You’re new home looks so bright and fresh and upbeat. Perfect place to start over. Welcome back!ReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - Ok, wait a minute. What happened to the home you’re in? Is Andrew living there? And I’m sorry to hear about WP, but you’re a Fab Blogging rockstar. I hope you find even more success there.ReplyCancel

  • Anita Davis Sullivan - Well, junk. House does look amazing though!ReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - Can I live in that house? It’s gorgeous! Our new house was gorgeous when the previous owners lived in it. Then we moved in.ReplyCancel

  • When Crazy Meets Exhaustion - WP doens’t know what they’re missing. They suck anyway.ReplyCancel

  • Kerry Rivera - I say a loss for WordPress. Love your optimism. Can you channel that my way? :) Can’t wait to read your next post.ReplyCancel

  • Jim Sharp - Glad you are back. Enjoy your posts.ReplyCancel

  • Sarah Honey - I’m sorry about WP! At least you know now and not 6 months from now. I’m excited for your new home and all the exciting memories you will create in your new space! (((Big Hugs)))ReplyCancel

  • Parri Shahmanesh Sontag - GREAT floors. GREAT countertops. BIG closet. That’s a win, girl! I’m happy for you and your wonderful new beginning. And it’s too bad WordPress doesn’t appreciate your talents … and wasn’t willing to mentor you in what the heck it was that they wanted. It seems like they didn’t give you enough of a chance to deliver! If that kind of stability is what you’re looking for, though, remember that a lot of the theme companies hire support people, as do hosting companies that work with WP, like Go Daddy. You are what is known as a “best kept secret!” And whoever lands you will be lucky to do so!ReplyCancel

  • Kim Lechleitner Miller - Sweet Julie! Glad to “have you back” so to speak! The new space looks totally awesome too! I can’t wait for the next post!ReplyCancel

  • Pete Vanlaw - Sounds like your WP mentor was afraid that you knew more than he did and was in fear of losing his job. Or that you would jump ahead of him.So, he put you between a brick and a hard place with no chance of ever being right. Not an uncommon situation in corporateland. But your new space looks “Simply Mahvelous!” Selfishly speaking, glad to have you back.ReplyCancel

  • Cristina - So can we guess?! That house looks beautiful! Right out if HGTV. We rent too. Have to. We ain’t got no time to fix, unclog or keep up with landscaping. I was so expecting a different surprise. I’m cut from a different cloth I guess you’d say, where the unexpected is just what’s needed. :) glad to have you back.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Too bad for WordPress – they are missing out. Glad you’re back though. ReplyCancel

  • James Peters - I think you’re one of the most interesting people when it comes to writing.
    I love how personal, raw & fresh your material is.
    I don’t comment as much as I should (sorry for that) but I do want to say that I try to catch as much of your postings as I can.
    Your talent inspires me to continue on “in my own world” and try new things.
    I thank you for that.
    Thank you, for being you.ReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - Trying to please people who will never be pleased is both an act of futility and soul-crushing. I’m sorry on the financial end, but I do believe everything does work out in the end for the best. Most of the time, anyway. And this time, for certain.ReplyCancel

Julie here? You miss me? Well I’m alive — albeit a little harried. I try not to write garbage, so unless I have something really compelling to say, I just keep my mouth shut. I’ve learned something in my 33 years at least. There is so much going on — even on a daily basis […]

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  • AlwaysARedhead - My husband always goes shopping with me, for the simply reason he is far better at it then I am, plus it doesn’t help that I don’t enjoy shopping. As for the opening doors, pulling out chairs, always, mine is a sweetie too. I’m glad you found your bliss.ReplyCancel

  • Denise - I’ve got to guess that your guy has neat sounding accent too. So, it’s not surprising–American’s are fascinated with romantic sounding European accents. And most grown couples people see are past the lovey-dovey stage–I’m guess you two are just so super cute that people can’t help but admire you.

    Glad you’ve found joy. :)ReplyCancel

  • Emily - Awww…Jon once convinced me to buy a pair of Prada shoes. I had no interest, but he insisted. And, he probably has way more shoes than I do. Another man with a shoe fetish! :)ReplyCancel

  • Chris Carter - Oh Julie…. this entire post makes me so very happy… for you! I love that your man treats you like gold and embraces EVERYTHING in life and everything in YOU.

    I love this so much.

    Keep allowing the love to pour onto you. I can’t think of anyone who deserves it more than you, my friend.

    Alex- thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for being exactly YOU and discovering the incredible gift that Julie is. Keep treasuring her gold. :)ReplyCancel

  • Can I Get Another Bottle of Whine with My Morning Quiet Time? - Oh man, I know that heavy sigh. We’ve had arguments over the heavy sigh. It must be that Alex grew up in a different culture. My husband still holds doors for me. Although I still struggle with feeling like I owe him something when he does it. But that’s just my low self-esteem talking ReplyCancel

  • Can I Get Another Bottle of Whine with My Morning Quiet Time? - Oh man, I know that heavy sigh. We’ve had arguments over the heavy sigh. It must be that Alex grew up in a different culture. My husband still holds doors for me. Although I still struggle with feeling like I owe him something when he does it. But that’s just my low self-esteem talking.ReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - You being happy makes me very happy. Being in love is the best thing in the world.ReplyCancel

  • Paul Tardiff - Ahh yes, European men are usually amazing. ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I can answer that question very easily, I noticed it and commented when you first put your picture up of the two of you together. It’s LOVE. Your eyes look so alive instead of staring into a computer screen you’re finally living life on the outside and it’s like you are just waking up. Go with it, enjoy it and love the hell out of it and him!!!! Some haters will say it’s because it new or because you’re still married so it feels exciting. I say BULL FUCKING SHIT!!!!! When it is right, when it is supposed to be, it just IS. My hubby and I are the same way…still 23 years later. He’s my best friend and even though this last year we have been through such huge changes (becoming mom’s caregiver, being Social media active (okay addict)). He is still the other half of me, I feel it every single day. You are just feeling this. I know you loved Andrew and I, in no way want to discount that love, but you lived along time being unhappy. It’s like waking up out of a coma. Try this: find a picture of you taken a year or so ago, the one I thinking of, maybe a friends wedding you went to I think but any will do except with your kids, because you light up then too. You are smiling in the picture and so pretty but compare those eyes to the eyes of you in this picture. There is the difference and people can spot it a mile away. Some because the recognize it, like me. Others because they recognize they don’t have it, thus the curious and the haters. I wish you all the best, my friend and may your days be spent in the real world and not watching it through a screen. I have to remind myself of this sometimes too! I really am happy for you, I always have to root for love when I see it!ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Roberts - Your man sounds a lot like mine. And you can have complete confidence it will continue…my guy and I have been together 14 years and he still treats me like that. We are truly lucky woman, and we know it. Congratulations!ReplyCancel

  • Susan Zutautas - I say hang onto each other! A love story in the making :) I am so happy that you found each other.ReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - You both sure are in love :) Wishing you many blissful years together, Julie

  • Sandra Sallin - Your eyes say it all. Pure bliss.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Fan-frickin-tactic. A keeper for sure. ReplyCancel

  • Claudia Schmidt - Awesome. Some of it might be because he’s European. When I was in my 30’s I met and lived w/a wonderful Irishman for a few years and he was very similar. Good for you, ENJOY!ReplyCancel

The other night I went out to dinner with longtime blogging buddy Emily Cappo and her friend Jill. It was so nice to finally meet one another in person after so many online interactions, and I can say that most people I talk to online, are just the same in person. It’s refreshing! We had […]

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  • Emily - I can definitely see how spending time with foreigners can change your perspective. You really made some interesting points (and I just love that Dunkin Donuts example – so true!). And Americans being loud – yes you are right – now I’m wondering if I was too loud in the restaurant the other night…I’m blaming the wine.:) P.S. I just love that photo of us too, don’t you?!ReplyCancel

  • Kate - I am currently living in The Netherlands, and after being here for half a year already and having done quite a bit of traveling I would agree with a good bit of what you said! I used to always get dressed in my workout clothes, run my errands, come home and workout then shower for the day and know when I ran my errands I would still be better dressed than half the people out there…not true here. No one goes out unless they are dressed in proper clothes, and not as many women wear jeans here as in the US either I noticed. …and when we go to France or Italy I don’t wear jeans at all lol

    Living in a different country has definitely opened our eyes to other ideals and points of view…and telling people you are American doesn’t always garner you the respect you are grown up thinking it will, which I think was the biggest shock for all of us (me, the husband, and the teenager).ReplyCancel

  • Jill - Very well said! Beings able to talk about and experience the differences certainly makes for interesting conversation and learning. I wish more American travelled outside the US–might instill some much needed humility. There’s nothing like travel to drive home how lucky we are to be American (for good or for evil).ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Lowell - Embarrassed? All the time. Without getting into a political rant here, I will just say one thing; Michele Bachmann is a US senator. Yes, I am embarrassed, and not because she is loud, or has bad shoes…ReplyCancel

  • Jill Cowen Cahr - Very well said!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa R. Petty - Every conversation I have had when ordering from McDonald’s
    Me: I want a small unsweetened tea.
    MCD: A large is the same price.
    Me: I’m aware of that. I don’t need a bucket of tea.
    MCD: You don’t want a large for the same price?
    Me: No. I will only drink a small.
    MCD: OK. A small sweet tea.

    This is why we are getting chubby. ReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - So true, Julie. Sometimes, it takes going to a foreign country or really getting to know someone from another country in order to see America from a different perspective. The pastor from my old church came to America from Scotland and as they were bidding him farewell, a man got up and was pretending to be a typical American. He was wearing an all-white suit with white shoes, carrying a diet coke and talking loudly. HAHAHAHA! Reminds me of a televangelist.ReplyCancel

  • Paul Tardiff - Yeah the lips will definitely do it to you. Asuming they are cute and a good kisser.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Golden Spoons - I have only been outside of the US once when we went to Paris. It was amazing how small everything seemed – because we are so used to BIG. I think sometimes we forget how blessed/privileged we are because we are just so used to it. It’s good to be reminded sometimes.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - First off I am so glad tnat it’s not only me who talks to loud and I’m Irish and female so we will go with that theory! I like it I have been saying this for years we want to teach our children anti-bullying. Someone should have taught the country that too. If you’re not like us we think should become like us. Don’t get me wrong I’m as patriotic as the next person I lived through my son being deployed for a year in Afghanistan and then he took an “easy” post in Japan and landed 2 hours before the Tsunami hit and spent his time cleaning up if you can only imagine. We think if we cant get the iphone 6 our lives suck. We have no idea.ReplyCancel

  • Brittany Bullen - Julie, Every time I go out of the country with my family (especially my grandparents!) I have to admit feeling a little sheepish about certain “American-isms” we commit unabashedly in front of the locals. That said, I love America and I always find myself homesick, even in some of the most beautiful places I’ve ever seen. For all its faults, I can’t get enough of the red white and blue! ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - OK, we’re loud, eat too much, dress poorly but…. I know how greatful my mther and father were to be Americans. I know that I would not be alive today if they hadn’t come to America. Who saved Europe during WWI and WWII?ReplyCancel

  • Amy Flory - Funny Is Family - My husband’s field is full of foreigners, so our group of friends are from all over (including Romania!). I love the way topics are seen through the eyes of people from different parts the globe, and how our reactions are based on the lenses of our home cultures. I’ve changed my mind on a few things based on conversations with my non-American friends, but no way am I burning my flip flops!;)ReplyCancel

It’s Tuesday morning and I’m barely caught up from the weekend. I was trying to write a wrap up, but then I thought – who the hell cares what I did or what I ate right? Anyway, today is Evan’s 11th birthday! I can’t believe it. Eleven. That’s old. He’s growing up so fast. Everything […]

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  • Kate Hall - Holy crap, Tinder?! Okay, that just makes me laugh. Mostly because I recall a post about you and Andrew laughing at all the people on Tinder and now here you are. AHAHAHAHA! Awesome.ReplyCancel

  • Brittany Bullen - Julie,

    Good for you! These days it can be so hard to meet people, most of the people I know who are finding love these days are doing it in similar ways. It’s nice to hear of someone using Tinder for more than just a booty call (how my stepbrother uses it!) and as a child of divorce, I can say with confidence that sometimes finding the right person for you, although complicated, can be the best thing for your kids too.

    Best of luck with your new relationship!

  • Sandra Sallin - Happy Birthday Evan. I am so impressed with his birthday menu. Asperagus is right. My husband stil wil not eat asparagus. Tinder? I have no idea what it is but it sound like you’ve got it together girl. Glad to hear you’re using your smarts. Good for you and your kids.ReplyCancel

  • Parri Shahmanesh Sontag - Wow, Julie. It sounds like you found a keeper! I’m happy for you!ReplyCancel

So I’m just warning you right now — if you don’t want to hear me gush, you’d better just get on up and leave, cause that’s what’s about to happen. Last night Alex cooked me dinner. First things first… “Can the boy cook?” Why yes he can. He decided to cook me something sorta kinda […]

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  • Steve @coolcathotfood - Oh course he can cook Julie. Why do you think most chef’s are male? We can all cook, we just don’t always admit to it. And yeah, protein is the way to go, we’re hunters, not gatherers!ReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - That looks AWESOME. I want to eat it right NOW. And what you thought polenta was CRACKED me up.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - The one thing about being happy is you get fat. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. The good thing is if you’re happy you don’t notice. And neither does anyone else. ReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - i agree not using measuring cup is cultural thing…i too realized when i came to the US…in India it was always approximation and that’s how we learnt…lol

    I am glad he can cook besides many other qualities :)

I hab a colb. That’s booger speak for I have a cold. It never fails, two weeks into school and I’m sick. Kids too. So here I am, tissues and cough drops in hand, trying to get my act together this morning. So I have some cool news to share. Several months ago, I applied to WordPress. […]

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  • Jackie - Good luck with the WordPress gig!

    Parenting classes for divorced parents? That seems slightly intrusive. Good luck with that, too :)ReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - Crap, that’s overwhelming, but dang, the lawyer fees for a divorce (or anything, I guess) are ridiculous! I love your water bottle idea in the shoe holder on your daily. I might try that. Congratulations on the WP gig! WOOOOO!ReplyCancel

    • Kate Hall - Oh and on the parenting courses. When we adopted our kids, we had to take 10 hours of parenting and/or parenting adopted children classes. I totally get that, but when you’re on the third kid and have to take an additional 10 hours, it seems kind of ridiculous.ReplyCancel

      • dave - Remember, laws are made by rich people. They start out with no kids and a maid, have a kid and add a nanny, have a second kid and add a nurse and an au pair, have a 3rd kid and add a gardener, a doula, 3 more maids, 2 more nannies and a chauffer for each person including the nannies maids etc… So they figure that us average people might just need some instruction to be able to deal with things.ReplyCancel

  • Denise - CONGRATULATIONSReplyCancel

  • Denise - CONGRATULATIONS on the new gig! That is SO FREAKING AWESOME! So, what exactly do you do if you work for WordPress? Design new templates? Or something else. But if you respond, use small words. I think I’m blonde on the inside.ReplyCancel

  • dave - The same course is required for parents who were never married if there is a custody issue.
    I never base my opinion of someone’s intelligence on hair color. Aside from the fact that the belief in blonde dumbness is a fallacy, too many people dye their hair to be able to tell anyway.
    Way to go on the new job!ReplyCancel

  • Twindaddy - Congratulations!!ReplyCancel

  • Jenn - Congrats! You’ll rock.ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Congratulations! I always knew you were way to pretty to be as smart as you are. :-) So happy for you. But that means that they’re really smart aso for hiring you. Happy, happy happy for you.ReplyCancel

  • Kerry - Congrats Julie! Sounds like the perfect gig! You’ll do “fabulous.”ReplyCancel

  • Icescreammama - that is amazing!! go you!! you’re going to rock it. ReplyCancel

  • Dana - Congratulations Julie! Clearly your blonde hair makes you awesome.ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Gale Williams - Congratulations on the job! You are amazing! And sorry about all of the hoops with the divorce. EllenReplyCancel

  • Cheryl Nicholl - Wonderful news! You’re best life is on the way! ReplyCancel

  • Kristi Rieger Campbell - Wha-hoo! Julie, that is amazing news! You’re so so going to rock WordPress. I’m really really happy for you! Big time! Huge-time and also I think the 29th is good luck – it’s my wedding anniversary (and I think Stephanie’s too)! Also, guess I better get that email together before you are even more busy! ;)
    Hope you feel better soon, too!ReplyCancel

  • Kirsten Jill Robbins - Congratulations on your new job. That is awesome, although I cannot say I am surprised at all. Makes me feel super cool and warm and fuzzy to have your working on my blog. And I’m sorry to hear about the other stuff. Been there and done that. ReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - Great timing indeed. Well done you :)ReplyCancel

  • Paul Tardiff - OMG girl, you are rock star and an inspiration to me. My Mom raised all five of us boys on her own and I turned out okay (lol). You will be fine and I’m happy that you did not involve lawyers. Your children will thank you when they get older, because lawyers suck and pit parents pitting one another, which sucks for the kids. What will you be doing for WordPress? My dream job is to work from anywhere on a laptop! ReplyCancel

  • Mandi Lite - Congrats! Sounds like it’s the perfect job at the perfect timing. Best of luck. I have no doubt you will kick ass. Why do people still underestimate blondes? ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Roberts - The stars are aligning. Good for you!! Show ‘em how it’s done, blonde style!ReplyCancel

  • Sarah Honey - Rock star!! Congrat on the new job!!! So exciting! More great thing are coming your way!! xoReplyCancel

  • Gunmetal Geisha - That is incredible news! Best to you.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Yay Julie Chenell DeNeen!ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Yay Julie Chenell DeNeen!ReplyCancel

  • One Funny Motha - Great news! Congrats! You’ll knock it out of the park.ReplyCancel