Julie DeNeen » Purveyor of Fine Opinions

Well after all the whining and crying about missing Alex… And the anticipation of him coming home… It’d be downright cruel to say nothing about our reunion right? I’m sorry to say that I have no pictures to go with this post. In fact, I really don’t have many of us together at all. In […]

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  • Kate Hall - So glad he’s home, Julie. :-) Reading your reunion melted my heart.ReplyCancel

  • Vanessa D. - Okay, I thought I had it bad when I accidentally bought a sweater with bead clusters centered on each boob – glow in the dark chipmunk eyes have got bead clusters beat.

    It sounds like you’ve got all the really important parts of your Holidays wrapped up.ReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - I am happy for ya, Julie.

    Happy Holidays!
    xoxoReplyCancel

  • Kim Lechleitner Miller - Julie – so very happy for you! Sounds like an absolutely “perfect” reunion! Yippee!!! (finally, right?!?) Psst … I did some post love today on your post and my own brand of year end blog cleanup today – http://goo.gl/L2vW4c – when you get a chance!ReplyCancel

  • Jenny Kanevsky - Yay!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Yay! Home for Christmas!!! Do they celebrate Christmas in Romania? I was just wondering if this would be his first Christmas ever or not. I am so happy for you! Our babies are coming home!!! Finally! Caleb will be home in two more days and Izzy (Isabella) will be home in another week or so. They are doing great. Merry Christmas! Enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Aw, all is well. Enjoy it all.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Just…YAY!ReplyCancel

Almost. I don’t know whose idea it was to open the state of Connecticut, but bad call people. Bad call. I really have no one to blame but myself though. This should have been my first clue….   I nearly died getting into my car. Now I’m in it. Now what? #CarIgloopic.twitter.com/yOKCtoYcKX — Julie DeNeen […]

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  • Vanessa D. - I’d love to say being from Canada driving in slippery conditions doesn’t bother me – but it does. Freezing rain is just no. Ever. Snow never bothered me when I had my little Cavalier. Now I’ve got this Malibu with sportier tires and I hate driving in it. Hate it. Even without the pregnancy hormones I usually want to bawl.

    Unfortunately, I have a job that requires me to sometimes drive all day to see customers. Of course once spring rolls around I’ll be crowing about how lucky I am to have this job that pays me to drive all day.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - OMG! I’m so glad you’re ok!ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Roberts - Ice is the worst!! There is nothing you can do other than nothing. So glad you made it home OK!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - You crack me up! You are from NEW ENGLAND! I thought you all had this driving in bad weather stuff down by now!!!! When you are sliding not low gear neutral it will keep the motor from pulling. Mail Carrier trick, cause you know snow, rain, sleet….. I am glad you won’t be spending your Christmas alone! Have a very Merry Christmas Julie!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Eve Iateyourdamn Apple - Wait. Let’s revisit the cookies for coworkers part…ReplyCancel

  • Dawn Quyle Landau - There are so many reasons I left New England, my home… but this is surely one of them! Glad you are Ok, Julie!ReplyCancel

It’s very hard to concentrate on writing when I have a beautiful Christmas tree not three feet from my desk filled with the smell of pine, peppermint, and gingerbread…. But I have some very exciting news. Alex will be home on Thursday! Not knowing his return date {hoping against hope that the Embassy would be […]

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  • Kelly Roberts - Enjoy the reunion!! And gushing is always welcome…the world needs more love.ReplyCancel

  • Susan Zutautas - I love hearing about Alex and I’m so happy for you that he will be home soon.ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Aw, happiness!ReplyCancel

  • Kim Lechleitner Miller - Woo hoo! Enjoy your time together and if the weatherman threatens a Nor’Easter just blow it my way. I’ll take it and suffer the consequences for ya girly-girl lol! I agree with Kelly too – gush away – the world DEFINITELY needs more love!ReplyCancel

  • Glenda Clemens - I love how your blog reads today of love and anticipation and moving forward with intention of creating a new wonderful life yet being responsible for the life that you left. Weaving your children into your life with Alex is exactly what a woman of power and love would do! Many blessings and love to you and your new life. Gush away. Spreading love and light is never a bad thing.ReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - Ah, now I know why I don’t see you, we’re living in two different time dimensions. I’m glad things are going well and he’s coming home. I always love a good love story, but I know what you mean about whether or not it’s TMI or just plain ole good blogging. Now that I’m woman with a dragon tattoo I’ve decided I don’t give a rat’s ass, but that’s for today. Tomorrow I’ll probably care again. Anyway, I want to hear about his homecoming. At least the PG-13 version.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Well I’m behind as usual so I don’t know if he came home last Thursday or if you only have one more day left in your countdown. Either way I am so happy he will be with you for Christmas!!!!ReplyCancel

I forgot. Nature tricked me. Tonight as I stared in the mirror at the freakishly fast-growing stomach and thighs on my body, it all came back to me. That paralyzing fear that no matter how well I eat, how much I exercise {and that’s a joke – because walking up stairs makes me winded and […]

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  • Claudia Schmidt - I gained 40 lbs with each one. And, was ravenously hungry the entire time. Just go ahead and eat, it’s pointless to try not to when you’re pregnant. Don’t forget, you’ll be so busy afterwards that you won’t be able to eat, so the weight will drop off pretty quickly.ReplyCancel

  • David Gross - *hugs*
    Great post :)ReplyCancel

  • Emily Ramirez - I wish I could post a picture for you. I went to Ireland at nearly 8 months pregnant, and ate my weight in Irish butter. Left Ireland with a hefty double chin, and some arm wings for good measure. Here’s a link to my blog post… by all means read it if you want to hear about my weight gain woes, but at the very least scroll down and look at my picture. If a picture says 1,000 words, this picture is full of four letter words. http://holdmedontholdmeblog.com/2014/10/07/third-trimester/ReplyCancel

  • Emily Ramirez - After reading over this, I promise this isn’t a shameless blog plug, but rather an attempt at commiserating. Hang in there, Mama!ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Aw, you’re growing a beautiful baby. Stop your hating of your body. Enjoy and feed that little one.ReplyCancel

  • Eve Iateyourdamn Apple - Remind me to show you some of the pregnancy photos I took of myself. You’ll feel much better.ReplyCancel

  • Jenny Kanevsky - Ha! I just wrote a post for Blunt about this. 5 Things Never To Say To A Mom. My body loved gaining pregnancy weight. And cheeseburgers. Try to enjoy it if you can. It’ll come off, but for now, you’re making a person. That person wants chow. Every woman is different. The “I only gained 20 lbs women,” half robot, half biatch.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - My daughter just gave birth to twins and looked like a house even though she delivered at only 28 weeks. I really didn’t know a person could actually get that big, especially when the babies only weighed 2 1/2 lbs. a piece! Mine weighed 10.07lbs and 8.10lbs so I am definitely not used to little babies! I hope it goes smoother for you here on out!!ReplyCancel

  • Carrie-Anne Foster - Ah, Julie. Ever mother has been here. Hell, with both my boys I gained about 40 pounds. And neither baby was over 8 pounds. Go figure.ReplyCancel

  • Jamie - I’m pregnant with my first now and everyone says it’s all in my belly (don’t shoot!) but I swear I have a double chin that makes the Michelin man look thin. Props to you for eating healthy – I craved and ate mostly burgers the first trimester (when I could eat anything besides saltines of course.) The second trimester was mostly smooth sailing other than wanting to vomit over pasta sauces and anything chicken. And currently my third trimester I cannot stop eating sweets and the hormonal emotional mood swings are in full force now. I’m ready to have my body back that’s for dang sure!ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - I remember the eating….mmmmm….cookies.

    Whoops. Sorry that want helpful. I feel for you Julie Chenell DeNeen.ReplyCancel

Since moving into our apartment a month ago, I’ve mostly been too tired and nauseous to do much in the way of homemaking. I also lack something called furniture, not to mention I was reveling in the wide open space of an apartment without clutter and years of collected goods. But in the last week, […]

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  • Glenda Clemens - I love this post and I am so happy for you! Many blessings to you this season!ReplyCancel

  • Glenda Clemens - Oh! I forgot! I love, love, love the butter dish. :)ReplyCancel

  • Jessica Robin Blaha - lol Bob and Boblet! She cracks me up!
    Happy Thanksgiving, Julie!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Golden Spoons - Happy Thanksgiving to you, Julie!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Sounds like heaven!ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - You have so much to be thankful for!ReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - Beautiful, Julie. :-)ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Happy Thanksgiving. So many things to be thankful for. The butter dish made all the diference. :-)ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Happy Thanksgiving. So many things to be thankful for. The butter dish made all the diference. :-)ReplyCancel

  • Joan Stommen - This was perfect for me to read…..just what I need to know my decision to sell my house is right one. I’ve been wishy washy too long fretting about past memories and routines the kids have here. But they will share my enthusiasm….and ingenuity like you….in helping me make a new place home! Thankful for your post, Julie!ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Yes indeed, you have a great deal to be thankful for. Happy Thanksgiving my dear buddy.ReplyCancel

No one likes to be judged, myself included. And there’s been plenty of criticism and judgment towards me in recent months. But then I started thinking about the positive side of judgment. Not the benefits of giving it out, but why it might be a blessing to be on the receiving end of someone’s judgmental […]

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  • Claudia Schmidt - Good for you, Julie. I didn’t learn a lot of this until I was in my late 40s so you’re way ahead of the game. You’re a great mom, I can see it in the happy faces of your kids.ReplyCancel

  • ManicMom - This was a wonderful post and helpful to remember about judgment. I agree that the things people stand in judgment on give powerful insight into their own insecurities. When people attribute viewpoints to others, it tells you what they’re feeling.

    I have learned some interesting things about myself recently by virtue of the way people respond to my blog. I’m more thin skinned than I realized.ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Lowell - Yeah for you!! Most people don’t figure this stuff out (if ever) until they’re in their 50s. You are a rock star at life!!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - The great thing about age is that it teaches us to not pay attention to judgmental people. I hardly notice any more and when I do? It’s their problem, not mine.ReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - Great post, Julie! It’s clear that you’ve grown through all the judging you’ve dealt with over the past few years. Number 4 is SO insightful. that is so true. I’d never really seen that written before, but it’s really true. And number 1 is one of the biggest changes. I think most moms become less judgy after having kids – at least a little – obviously not all because there are still parents out their judging the crap out of each other, but going through difficulties and dealing with being judged changes you. Number 9 is interesting to me. Other people’s expectations kill me. I find myself avoiding people just so I don’t have to deal with their expectations. That might be different than detaching. I’m not sure. That might be just avoiding. This is just such a good post. Really enjoyed it!ReplyCancel

  • Tana Bevan - California is known for earthquakes. This particular one is just me getting into some serious clapping & cheering and FOOT STOMPING! Kudos, my friend. Kudos!

    There’s a saying I heard years ago, point one finger at me, three are pointing back at you. As one who is totally guilty of being human, with all its foibles and imperfections, I do not feel qualified to pass judgment on another. The best I can do is decide if I wish to spend time with that person or not. Kinda nice having some choices in life. lol

    More clapping, cheering & foot stomping!!!ReplyCancel

  • Gretchen Weber Kelly - Judgement is such a nasty thing. We’ve all been guilty of it at some point, but I think you’re exactly right. Once you’re on the receiving end you start to grant people more grace and respect. And number 4… so true. Good to remember when you come up against one of these meddling judgmental types.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Graham - You made some valid points and I agree with you. What I have noticed is that, as we age, some of us become less judgmental while others go the complete opposite. They seem to become bitter and we need to wean ourselves from those relationships. Good post.ReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - Well yes. Especially to number 2.

    As for 1, I find that even when we let go of judgement it can be surprising to discover tiny fragments left behind. Tiny, but big enough to trip us up at times. Truth is, judging hurts us, so letting go of it is for our own benefit. So I totally agree that judgemental people are terribly fragile.
    Great post.ReplyCancel

  • Joyce Gammon Hamel - Loving this post… and so identifying with it.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I’d certainly like to hope that I’m not the judgmental type unless you count me giving the death stare to hubby for eating the last ho-ho the cheating bastard haha! Sorry I am glad that you have seemed to weather this storm of everyone else’s imaginations and that they have found someone else to pin their insecurities on. You definitely deserve a break from all the asshats out there. Those who live in glass houses….as they say. I hope your pregnancy is going good and I hope you are having a blast in your new life! I for one am very happy for you. Sometimes we have to hurt people we love to keep from being smothered to death ourselves. I’ve missed you and am seriously considering sabotaging myself just to see how you are doing haha!ReplyCancel

  • Jenny Kanevsky - I love this post, and can relate. It’s freeing to let go of judgments. It’s harsh to feel them from others but, as I recently found, looking in the mirror, yes, I was bringing my own self righteous to the table. Sobering. And, freeing. Great points.ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Julie, you are walking your own path. And those who love you are walking with you.ReplyCancel

  • deehandlon@hotmail.com - Hi Julie,

    I especially love: #4 #9 and # 10 Thought provoking.

    You are a beautiful spirit.

    Warmly,

    Denise Handlon from HP

    ps, if you get an opportunity, check out my blogspot and I am open to feedback, lol I love yours, BTW Keep up the awesome job of sharing your VOICE :)ReplyCancel

I’m trying to be brave. Really I am. But all I want to do is cry. I took Alex to the airport on Saturday morning. He arrived safely in Bucharest and is now visiting with his family who hasn’t seen him in seven months. He will make the rounds in his hometown, see all his […]

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  • Chloe Jeffreys - Absence done right can be very good for a relationship. Jeff and I have grown together in so many ways now that I travel for my work. We’re much more intentional when we’re together than we ever were before. We really make time for one another when we’re together. But that doesn’t mean we don’t miss each other like crazy when we’re apart. For your sake, and Alex’s, I hope your man comes home soon.ReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - aww! absence sure makes the heart fonder since we ponder over those memories that make us smile…and smile we lot thinking of that person. My boys were away for the weekend via boy scouts…sure it gave me a lot of “I” time, but every few minutes mind would tither towards them…alas!

    Hang in there cause soon you will driving to the airport to pick him up!
    xoxoReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Ahhh pregnancy. I don’t miss the nonstop crying stage.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Ahhh pregnancy. I don’t miss the nonstop crying stage.ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Well the good thing is that you’re so busy crying you’re not nausous. Obviously you’re very happy and very sad. Pregnancy hormones?ReplyCancel

I feel one of those epic rants coming on. I try not to blog when I’m in this mood, but sometimes some good ol’ fashioned online validation is just what the doctor ordered. I hear voices. Generally this results in medication, therapy, and being institutionalized, but so far I’ve kept my disease secret enough to […]

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  • Kerry - While I am not going through a divorce, I could totally relate to your feelings. As it pertains to women and work, the Mommy Wars have raged on for years. As the breadwinner, I am home less, but I am still carrying the weight on all of those invisible parenting tasks. I work so hard to make up for the time I’m not there, and I’ve worked hard to negotiate flex. My salary is carrying our household, and I bust my butt on all fronts. Still, I am judged. I get the comments about having them in daycare, about missing moments when I travel, about having someone else “raise them.” Deep down, I know it is all BS, but it is hard to cope when you feel judged. And just like you, when the tables are turned, dads are applauded for their efforts. It sucks, and I just try to quiet the voices and look at my kids. If they are good, I’m good. That’s the monitor I need to watch. Everyone else – well they just don’t know my reality. Hang in there!ReplyCancel

  • Lucy Ball - Wow. Julie. Thank you for sharing this. On behalf of mothers who are married and single. Those voices can be completely overwhelming. I appreciate that you shared your feelings and the fact that they don’t reflect feelings about men in general, but about the way our society elevates fathers on pedestals who do what so many mothers do every day across the world. That said, I don’t mean to degrade fathers whatsoever. Desi is an amazing father. And yet, if I take my children to the park and happen to check my phone, I am an in attentive mother. If their father takes them to the park, he’s a martyr. At any rate, I appreciate your honesty. And those voices have an will continue to linger as long as we are alive. Stupid voices. Loves, hun.ReplyCancel

    • Julie DeNeen - I guess it’s not just an issue during divorce, but one that is shouted about all the time. Of course, on the other end of the spectrum, Dads are also stereotyped as dumb idiots, which they most certainly are not that either!ReplyCancel

  • Claudia Schmidt - Yup. I’ve been married 20 years and still feel that way. Mothering is incredibly hard and I don’t think I’ll ever feel like I’ve “done it right” even when my kids are grown and moved out on their own. Try to give yourself a break, you sound like a fabulous mom to me.ReplyCancel

    • Julie DeNeen - Yes, this is the conclusion I’ve come to…that if I can be okay in myself, I will be okay no matter what anyone says. Because divorce or no divorce, this is an issue all mothers battle regularly. Thanks Claudia.ReplyCancel

  • Jenny Kanevsky - You get all the Amens in Amenland. It’s a shit stereotype. Vent, girl, vent.ReplyCancel

  • Jenny Kanevsky - And you are doing it well. Only you know what’s best for your family.ReplyCancel

  • Sandy Lévêque - You are so spot-on that it would be completely different if it were the other way around. People are so quick to judge and slower to be aware of what impact that has. I agree with your last sentence!ReplyCancel

  • Kim Lechleitner Miller - Julie, I know exactly how you feel. While I’m not in your shoes – I know what it feels like to be labeled a “bad mother” when people don’t know the facts or the circumstances regarding your situation. This is an arrangement that works for both you and Andrew. Screw what anyone else has to say – you do what is right for YOUR situation and the voices be damned.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa R. Petty - I went through the same thing. It will get better.ReplyCancel

  • Paul Tardiff - You don’t have to prove or explain yourself to anyone. Also, what a woman you are to equally share your children with their father… That is love and selfless. I only got to see my father one weekend every two weeks. You are giving your children a choice by not involving the courts.ReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - I’m totally not one of them. I think you both should be proud of the fantastic and mature way you’ve handled this all. But that being said, the same voices are in my own head. And one of them is my own.ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Roberts - I am probably one of the rare children of divorce who felt my life was better when my parents were divorced. I was young, just three years old, but I remember acutely how much more important and worthy I felt in my dad’s eyes because he actually had days of the week when his only job was to pay attention to me. That didn’t happen before the divorce, and it didn’t happen after my parents remarried each other when I was seven…and I’ve got years of therapy and daddy issues under my belt because of it (well, you know…).

    If I *had* been asked, I would have begged them to stay divorced. But no body asked me. And when it comes right down to it, the only opinions about what children need when their parents divorce are the children’s.

    So I would encourage you to ask the question you seem to be struggling with the most: “Am I enough for you as a mom?” Ask them to give you one to three things they need from you that they’re not currently getting. Then:
    1- Take them at their word.
    2- Do everything you can to be that for them.
    3- Stop listening to, absorbing, inhaling, agonizing over everyone else’s opinion.

    If you do #1 and #2, you won’t feel compelled to do #3 because you’ll be confident that you’re doing exactly what your children need, or at least working toward that. And their opinion is the only one that matters.ReplyCancel

  • JD Bailey - The double standard is really astounding. Not surprising, but still astounding. You keep on, keeping on. Sounds like you are being a GREAT mom – as you have been all along.ReplyCancel

  • carol stanley - JUlie: I feel badly that you are beating yourself up. In my humble opinion your kids are just fine. Having a lot of Dad’s attention is just as good as moms. As long as you stay a team as parents the kids are fine. They probably like all the new activity–and Iam sure your time with them is undivided and fun.

    I had my kids in the divorce but when they reached a certain age they moved in with their dad. Moms should beat themselves up when they spend all day working away from the kids. You are there for them. Life is about choices and I think you are doing the best possible.ReplyCancel

  • Vanessa D. - I had to let this post settle a bit in my head before commenting. I think it’s exceptional that you and your former spouse have chosen to put your children first. And I agree there is a double standard there – a man who has his children live with him and a mother who doesn’t must somehow be unfit.

    I raised two boys mostly on my own, and if I’m being completely honest had their father not had issues of his own I would have probably embraced an arrangement that allowed for equal time with both parents.

    In some ways we are changing for the better – allowing that men are just as good at parenting as women are. In Canada, we even allow men to take parental leave and I think it’s wonderful. But the flip side is we have to stop judging women so harshly. Some women may even choose to not have their children all the time just because they know they aren’t suited for full-time parenting solo. Instead of vilifying those women – we should be lauding them for putting their children’s well-being first.ReplyCancel

  • Scott - I agree completely that this is unfair. I can also tell you, as a single father with 50/50 custody, that I have heard many of the compliments Andrew would get were he in your position.

    I’m not sure why we still hold only women responsible for raising children. It’s ludicrous to think only a woman can properly raise a child. Men are just as capable as women and should be held to the same standard.

    Coparenting is the ideal situation for children in the event of a divorce, in my opinion. If I could have my children 100% of the time I would take it in a heartbeat, but I could never deprive them of their relationships with their mothers.

    I’m so very sorry you’re being so harshly judged and I hope you eventually learn to tune out those negative voices. What matters most is your dear children and their well-being. All those voices are just noise.ReplyCancel

  • Practical Mama - As a working mom, I agree that the roles are distributed and shared unequally. In my opinion, the most important judgement will not come from others or even the voices in your head, but it’ll come from your children. Don’t dwell in the past or the future. Make sure they feel loved and secure by you now. Don’t dwell in the voices in your head either. You insecurities might reflect on them. They’ll sense it.
    I don’t know if you have time to read. If you get a chance, read “Power of now”. I’ve been reading it for the second time. It might help you quiet down those voices in your head and ignore the ones from outside.ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Lowell - Julie,
    As many people before me have said, the only opinions you should be listening to, and in fact soliciting are from your kids. It is very easy for others to point a finger and judge,and it is none of their business!
    My philosophy is that no one escapes childhood unscathed, and every challenge we face forms the adults we become. You strengthen rather than hobble kids when no matter how you live your life, and what decisions you make, if you allow them to develop the skills they need to weather the changes.
    You are a great mom, and the fact that you’re questioning yourself is absolute proof of that!
    Don’t wait for those horrid intruders to shut up, they never will, you need to shut them O U T!!!ReplyCancel

  • Bronwyn Joy - This is so very well said. It’s amazing how things sound sometimes when you turn the roles around so they’re gender-reversed.ReplyCancel

  • Enedina St Sebastian - My husband is a great dad, and has been helpful since we knew I was pregnant. Still damn if I didn’t want to punch people in the face for the praise they through his way. Not because he didn’t deserve it, but because I did too. Instead I felt judged for having to go back to work. Not to mention a host of other judgments my husband was not subject too. So unfair.ReplyCancel

  • Molley@A Mother Life - You just do what works for you guys. Let the judgements just roll of like water off a ducks back. I know that’s easy to say and more difficult to live but you are an amazing mother and both of you have obviously thought things through in great detail to make this transition for the children a little easier.
    Love and strength coming your way… haters gonna hate.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Listen to only your children’s voices nobody else’s should matter. You have nothing to feel guilty for, you’re doing the best you can do that is quite ALOT! Now shut up (just kidding talking to the voice not you)!ReplyCancel

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  • Manicmom - Amen, indeed. The boys’ father and I are still married, and, knock on wood, everything continues to go well, but we both have traveled extensively for business and I have seen this double standard in action. Once I was out of the country for a month. The support he got for the kids from our families and friends was amazing. People brought over dinners, and in-laws actually took the kids to stay with them for two weeks.

    Then when he was out of town for six weeks, I didn’t get a single call asking if I needed help. I knew all of those same people would be there for me if I asked, but they didn’t reach out. I knew this would happen. Both my parents worked and traveled for work. Mom never got offers, dad had people lining up to give assistance (and he sure needed it), and also people telling us that we needed to be sure and help our dad when mom was gone.

    I think it’s sad that more isn’t expected of fathers, and so much judgment is heaped upon mothers for not towing the line the way others expect them to.

    And for the record, my kids’ dad bristles when people underestimate his abilities to be there for the kids.ReplyCancel

If you are friends with me on Facebook, your newsfeed probably vomited my announcement that I’m now rich and famous because I failed at a one-minute brownie recipe and happened to tweet about it. The producer saw my tweet, decided I was the perfect TV personality, and immediately called me to be on the show. […]

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  • Molley@A Mother Life - So much fun to see you on tv today. I had a sick kid and we watched together…
    Remember the little people when you get super famous from this. And next time, call me! I’ll let you pee in my comfy loo :)ReplyCancel

  • Sarah @Thank You Honey - You did awesome & you are glowing! Great job! xo I love Rachel Ray!ReplyCancel

  • emily - I totally would have tried to eat the brownie off the fork – to me it looked as if he was about to feed it to you! Great job – you are truly a natural on camera!!ReplyCancel

  • Eileen - You were a natural. Fricking adorable!!! XXXOOOReplyCancel

  • Lynda@fitnessmomwinecountry - This is awesome Julie….so exciting. Oh and I am a Napa Valley {wine country} gal Olive Oil goes with anything LOLReplyCancel

  • dave - Awesome!ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - Wait!! That can’t be it! Where’s the video?!ReplyCancel

  • Vicki L. Hodges - Good job, Julie! How exciting! And you look wonderful!ReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - yoohoo! inspite of all that you were going thru…you were confident and dazzling :)

    xoxoReplyCancel

  • Paul Tardiff - You’re pregnant! Congrats.ReplyCancel

  • Pete Vanlaw - You looked terrific. While you were aware of the fake eyelashes, they looked totally real on camera, and very natural. Who’d have even thunk it if you hadn’t mentioned it. BTW, it you want to see Tom Bergeron at his absolute best, watch any episode of America’s Funniest Videos.He’s one of my all time favorite MCs. Now, when are they going to have you back?ReplyCancel

  • Not Enough Wine in the World - Too funny!ReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, oh my gosh! That is so freaking cooooool! I loved watching the clip! You did a great job! I would have been visibly shaking. Love it! And love you eyelashes!ReplyCancel

  • Susan Zutautas - You looked so natural up there and I couldn’t tell you felt nauseous. Looking beautiful as always!ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Lowell - OK, so you looked gorgeous, you were very poised and didn’t seem nauseous at all, and I am super jealous! And so happy you got to do this!!ReplyCancel

  • Practical Mama - You look amazing and so cool. I mean just relaxed and natural on screen. No sign of nausea and urge to pee at all. :) I would have reached for the brownie on that fork. He seemed to be feeding it to you.ReplyCancel

  • Parri Shahmanesh Sontag - What a fun experience. Can I touch you? You’re the closest I’ve ever come to a celebrity! And BTW, you look breathtakingly GORGEOUS! What an exciting experience!ReplyCancel

  • One Funny Motha - That’s too funny, but you look great. Let me know when you get her job.ReplyCancel

  • One Funny Motha - That’s too funny, but you look great. Let me know when you get her job.ReplyCancel

  • Darcy Perdu (So Then Stories) - HA! Love the that list at the end of the post. You did awesome and looked fabulous! What a cool experience!ReplyCancel

  • Dana Montenegro Hemelt - How fun! You looked totally relaxed. I tried to apply fake eyelashes on myself once and nearly glued my eye shut.ReplyCancel

  • Jhanis - What an awesome experience for you Julie! Can we start asking for your autograph now? :)ReplyCancel

  • Abby - I totally saw the show before I knew that was you on there. Congrats! That is SO cool!ReplyCancel

  • Carin Kilby Clark - You are glowing! Looks like you had FUN :)ReplyCancel

  • Carin Kilby Clark - You are glowing! Looks like you had FUN :)ReplyCancel

  • Lucy Ball - I could totally tell you had fake ones. Just kidding. There is another lesson to be learned here. All the best stuff happens on Twitter. I am going to make that brownie in a mug right now. Yum.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - This is too funny but I love Rachel EVERY DAY WITH RACHAEL RAY at RachaelRaymag.com just wish I could cook like she does!ReplyCancel

The most pressing issue in my life right now? What to put in my mouth. I wish I could explain morning sickness in a way that would help non-pregnant humans understand just how random and fickle first trimester nausea can be. I sound like a total whack job when Alex asks me the simple question, […]

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  • Kelly Roberts - “Will it be born with an accent?” My favorite question of all! So so sorry you’re feeling like dog shit. Fingers crossed it goes fast. Oh, and your baby says, “Thanks for the extra weight…just what I need to keep me toasty warm with winter around the corner.”ReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - Other than the part where the baby comes out, the first trimester is my least favorite. It was YEARS before I could be in the same room with the smell of cooking hamburger meat or eggs. Grocery shopping was a nightmare, too. I know they try to make sure the store looks clean, but to a newly pregnant woman they smell like a garbage pail.ReplyCancel

  • Nicole Davis - Just had the same conversation about babies coming out of vaginas with Fiona. “Which hole doors it come out of?”

    Bless your hearts….ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Aw saltines. Always my drug of choice,ReplyCancel

  • Glenda Clemens - When I was pregnant with my second child our 5 year old daughter watched us practicing childbirth exercises and she joined in. We explained about how the baby was coming out and we even demonstrated with David putting his hands under my dress and pulling a doll out from under the dress. Next day when I go to pick up daughter from preschool one of the nuns came running out to pull me into mother superior’s office. Our daughter was nearly expelled when when of the nun’s caught her pulling a doll from under another child’s dress while shouting, “Push! Push!” We should have said, “Next Question!” but your idea on how to handle the situation comes about 36 years too late! :) Great post. I laughed and giggled through every minute.ReplyCancel